Originally Posted by
PickMe 
He IS in recovery. He did not drink that night.
I think there is a communication misunderstanding here.
In recovery doesn't mean not drinking. Not drinking doesn't fix the problem, it's just the first part of fixing the problem.
In recovery means "Is he working a program? Is he going to AA, or rehab, or a therapist, or doing other things to sort out all the stuff behind the drinking, and all the learned behaviors?"
Hang in there, PickMe.
Keep working on yourself, and your own program, and things will change for the better.
Maybe he'll get better, and you two will get back together.
Maybe he'll get better, and both of you will decide you grew in different directions.
Maybe he won't get better, but you will get better, and you can find your future somewhere else.
Nobody knows the ending. All of us just do what we feel is the best thing at the time, and keep moving in what looks like a forward direction.
More will be revealed.