Confused
I had a long talk with my AH about his drinking. I never say anything to him about it, but he told me that he could see that it hurt me to see him drink. When he drinks, it is a 30 pack every 2 days and he can go on and on like this for weeks at a time before he takes a break. Recently he has said (a few times) he is done drinking for a while, but seems like the while only lasts a few days.
So we had our talk. He said he would not quit drinking for himself as he enjoys it too much, but he says he would quit because it bothers me. I said that if he does not give it up for himself than it won't work, that he has to want to quit. He said since he does not want to quit, he would only be doing it for me.
So the next day he says he has an idea, that he would limit himself to only 6 beers at a times. He asked me if I would agree to that. I know that he can not stop at 6 beers, if he had 6, he would keep going. He is not violent or mean when he drinks, but sometimes gets obnoxious and loud. He will usually just drink until he falls asleep.
Anyways, I just needed to vent, he has not drank since last weekend. I do not see it lasting very long since he is already trying to compromise. I did tell him that I joined this site to try to help me understand why he does what he does.