I would think that most of us on SR have snooped before, including me. Isn't it part of the disease of alcoholism?
It is definitely a part of my husband alcoholism (the family disease) that has affected me due to lack of trust, honesty and lies told by my AH. I have checked internet history and 'discovered' my AH had been visiting porn sites. I guessed his password for his email account and 'discovered' over a years worth of sordid emails to another woman. I checked around the house and 'discovered' cigarettes when he wasn't smoking and beers when he was in a period of sobriety.
My AH has 'checked' up on me too. Reading my emails, reading a letter sent to me from my mum, finding my SR account and reading all of my postings. I have never given him a reason not to trust me. He believed that I was untrustworthy because I was 'talking about him' with friends, family and SR!
I recognize that its wrong and feel bad for doing it and since attending Al-anon, counseling and coming on SR, I really try not to snoop. It is hard though! I still check his beer fridge and our joint account for beer purchases occasionally but I try to let it go. Its not worth the fight that would follow if I should mention it to him.
Are you attending Al-anon Terry? It sounds like your husbands alcoholism has deeply effected you too and if you learn how to detach you will feel much healthier. Its working for me.
My AH mentioned stuff to me that he had read in my emails and letter from my mum and justified it by saying that I was talking about him, he didn't show any remorse. What upsets me more is that he doesn't 'get' that it is not ok to invade my privacy and two wrongs dont make a right. I would let what you have found out go, or like others have said, you will likely do more damage to an already fragile marriage, if your husband can add 'untrustworthy' to his list about you.
I remember telephoning my husband when I had 'discovered' his year and a bit internet affair to 'give it to him both barrels' he was more indignant that I had accessed his email account than he was to being found out.