Once alcoholism is introduced into the marriage, all bets are off. Vows, pledges, promises, concern for feelings, etc., are gone by the wayside. I'm sorry he did things you don't like, but if you hadn't gone snooping, you wouldn't know and it wouldn't be upsetting you. Now that you know, it's up to you whether or not you wish to continue with the marriage. This just goes to show that it is less than fun being married to an alcoholic.