I am went to the non-dark side and it has been great--but not before I did a lot of work on me so I did NOT go back to the dark side.
So far, I have to say, WOW! Honesty, no histrionics, no put downs (I even get told I'm pretty when I have had a bad day and to me I look like was was just dragged through glass--hmm is that not honest
). He works for a living instead of leechng off of me and has the greatest smile I have ever seen-it even makes it all the way up to his eyes. He is not selfish but he is not selfless either. He makes me laugh, not cry.
So far, so good. I continue to work on me. I have let him know my boundaries and he does not push them. We have been seeing each other for 6 months and dating for about 3 months. We too are taking our time. We have talked about "merging" but in 2 years. Previously I would have stepped into a trap in a couple months and then be sorry. Not sorry now :O)