Sometimes I notice my recovery by ...
Realizing the absence of obsessive thoughts. I'll be at a party, a mall, or a restaurant and I notice that I'm simply enjoying myself and not worrying about what people think, what I'm wearing, what I'm saying, etc.
When my sister tells me about her latest problems and I just LISTEN! I don't offer advice or try to solve her problems.
When I say "no" to something and I don't feel like I have to justify why I can't help out.
I also sleep more soundly. I no longer find myself staying up all night worrying about people and things I have no control over.
In my mind I do have a recovery date though. It the night that I attended my first ACA meeting - November 2007.
Thanks for letting me share.
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