BobbyJ said it perfectly.
Concernednurse, we must work the program that we hope our As work.
Have you been to Al-anon? Al-anon, and Sober Recovery, and a great therapist have helped me to learn how to let go of fear, of the illusion of control.
My rabf is doing well in his recovery, but I will say that had I not sought my own recovery, we could never be happy together. I could not be happy with myself, or my life, had I not worked on ME as though my life depended on it.
I wish you well...and I strongly recommend Al-Anon. It's great that you are reading, but the support of those who have been there is so important for us.
Take care of you
