I've seen people 'count days' when they go n/c with a specific person.
I think if there's anything IMPORTANT to count
it's the steps
and that's in any program of recovery.
codependency is so insidious though
it's tough to keep a tally from the last time someone cut you off in traffic
to the last time anyone touched us ininvited
we stopped them and called them on the behavior.
it's just so many aspects
and occurs in so many ways
it'd be touch to keep a list.
some days are better than others.
maybe gage gauge gague (check) it
by how much anxiety we're feeling today.
how sad we are today
where's the focus today
on them?
or from the inside...looking out?
there's a guy in meetings "someplace I know of"
who identifies himself as
"alcoholic codependent addict gambler"
which I think
is a bit ... verbose.
it's a personality long before it's a substance or a behavior.