(((Ponder))) - welcome to SR!!
I've read many stories, on here, of people who have had horrific childhoods, tragedies, etc. Yes, it is a reason many people turn to drugs/alcohol. However, I've seen many of these people work a strong recovery program.
At some point, we have to take responsibility for our lives, as adults. Whether we need counseling, meetings, or friends on a place like this, we realize that we are responsible for OUR behaviors. We can't change others, we can't change the past (ours OR theirs), but we can make today and our future the best it can be by taking care of ourselves.
Hugs and prayers,
Amy