When I kicked my 19 year old heavy pot smoker out of the house i told everyone I felt like I left a baby strapped in a car seat in the middle of the road..(I think I got that from Raising Arizona!) Anyway, that was MY problem..he wasn't a baby nor helpless.Got a year and half of Alanon under my belt and no longer have such visions!btw..after a year of mooching off friends he has his own place, works, and has a ton of money saved..so much for the helpless theory..