Thank you for those tips Angel. I have done a really good job of staying detached.
I think she has already figured out that I am not responding to her and trying to fix her. She isn't calling very much at all. Or maybe it's that i'm not calling her. I think I called her alot because I was worried and if she had been drinking it all the stuff started.
I feel better. I'm not as stressed. I am still worried. I have driven by her house several times to make sure she is home. I have also checked to see if she is at work a few times, but not everyday. And if she isn't, I don't call her and ask why.
That is a big improvement over what I used to do. As I said, I do feel better.
I just keep saying, I can't control it, I can't cure it, and I didn't cause it. That little phrase that I learned here has done more good for me than anything else I have heard or read.