Forgive me if this has been answered definitively but I am curious if there is literature out there talking about MC being not useful or recommended with an active addict and also, even if someone is sober is there a length of time recommended for sobriety before attempting MC?
My AH continues mutlitple times a week to ask about MC and believes wholeheartedly that the issues to our marriage are a result of problems in our relationship and not due to his A and problems we each face individually... I keep telling him to ask his own T about whether MC is a good idea (knowing from my T that it is not) or to talk to his sponsor about it but he wants MY opinion (in order to blame me when I say I won't go). I've told him I will not go until he is active in recovery and when he asks when that will be or what that will look like all I can say is I don't know...
So, is there a time frame I should consider?