Originally Posted by
wanttobehealthy 
I personally wish that people would offer advice/perspective as we do here, in al anon meetings (at least the small ones that I attend).
The "no cross talk" only applies during the formal meeting. Lots of people come early, leave late so they can talk with their friends or any newcomers. Lots of people also get together in between meetings--for coffee, lunch, whatever.
Don't let the structure of the meeting proper keep you from connecting with people who can give you feedback. A sponsor is always good for that purpose, too.