For what it's worth, night was exactly as planned. Gardened, cooked and had a wonderful night, with a great, sober, content woman. After posting yesterday, I didn't give this a second thought.
It doesn't change the issue, but it does offer a very nice morning.
I am going to go to the alanon meeting, and listen to people's stories. I don't know enough, but I plan to.
Today is a rinse/repeat of yesterday. She has dinner duty tonight. I expect no surprises - after breakfast, we went to work, and she is coming straight home. So... I have allowed the 10 minutes of my day to think about this, and now i am shutting it off. I appreciate YOUr 10 minutes of YOUR day and YOUR support.