Originally Posted by
koikeeper 
Part of my exercise today was looking into alanon and AA... there is a meeting near home at 8 on Thursdays. They meet concurrently. I can choose to go. Her choice is hers.
Excellent idea, Koi. And if the meeting you go to is a little "off" go several times or look into others - each meeting is unique based on who is there, topic, etc. Within the same group some meetings are really profound, others can be disappointing. You really could use some perspective in a face to face setting that as good as SR is, simply cannot offer.
Good luck!