Old 03-22-2011, 01:22 PM
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Eddiebuckle
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Koi,

If she is an alcoholic, and she sure sounds that way to me, "it is not a horrible existence" probably won't last forever. Life with her will gradually get worse, I know, because I did that in the course of a 15 year relationship that I ended when it came down to her or alcohol. Three years later I quit. By that time she had long since moved on.

If you're OK with sort of kicking the can down the road and seeing if she comes to her own conclusion in her own time, just know that's what you are signing up for. You haven't said that much about your feelings for one another, but I assume they are very strong. I'm not suggesting that you should throw her under the bus, but sadly the odds with alcohoism are pretty rough if the person in question is anything less than 100% committed to sobriety. If you don't want to spend your life with an active alcoholic, you might as well know where you stand now.
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