RECF I am happy you are out. No one should have to put up with that kind of abuse. Although you are not in an ideal place living with another alcoholic it sounds like it is a safe place.
Just keep taking care of you. I am happy you have not given up on yourself.
This is a great place to come and talk about whatever you need to. If you find that the AlAnon meeting you are going to is not working, maybe try another. Even in NYC there are people who are living what you are living. Maybe after being there for awhile you will feel more comfortable and look for a sponsor.
Welcome, I am happy you are here.