Originally Posted by
nodaybut2day 
I dunno...I didn't see "judgment" in Suki's post. Perhaps a smidge of "throw your hands in the air frustration", but no judgment such as "you're a bad person for making the choices you're making". Perhaps, after being on SR for a certain amount of time, and after meeting so many new members facing the same problems, there does arise some frustration in that we are not able to save anyone from making the same mistakes we have.Anyway, I'll stop speaking for someone else and be quiet.
Funny you should say that.
I have said to my daughter time and again "Learn from my mistakes."
Since entering alanon, I have had to come to terms with the fact that she simply cannot do that.
She is who she is and has to learn on her own. No amount of experience I have is about to change that. Period.
It truly was a struggle to let go of that hope.
Live (your own life) and learn, isn't that what they say?
If we could learn from everyone elses mistakes, I would be on that train today!:rotfxko
Btw...please speak up, I enjoy a good joust! This is the way we learn.