Originally Posted by cafa684

He's probably miserable right now sober or drunk, and if I stayed with him, I would definitely be.

Originally Posted by cafa684

Also, just because I've been through this once, doesn't mean I have to do it again!

Originally Posted by cafa684

I can put out the work on myself outside of a relationship and steer clear of any red flags! I think because I've gone through it, that I'll never go through it again honestly. That may be naive thinking, but it empowers me!

Thanks for the wonderful advice, support, and testimonies. Its only been a week away from my XAB, but I would not be able to claim that victory if not for this site!