There are definitely a lot of cringe-worthy posts here for those of us who see each other's lives as a mirror of our own. And I thought my life was so unique... I thought my love with my husband was so special...so perfect...blech! It makes me a little sick and a lot embarrassed at how much I chose to ignore. Lots of red flags waving around right in front of my nose.
*SIGH* I married him. We are now separated. Luckily no kids (I have two already) because I was wise enough to see that was out of the question pretty early on. But I subjected my daughters to some pretty wild behavior.
I also thought marriage would give him the reassurance to relax about things and stop being so nutty and jealous. Nope. Stopping drinking, AA, and a great sponsor have been the only things that have changed anything...and that's sloooooow progress.
I wouldn't do it again if I had a chance. I would have run for the hills.
Thanks all for your great responses. This has been a very interesting thread.
~T