Your list looks a lot like mine did.
I "lost" most all of our mutual friends. Some of the friendships were 20-some years old. That HURT. But, I chose not to villanize him; and I can only imagine the stories he must have told them to explain why I left. It definately contributed to my abandonment issues.... But, without sounding like "sour grapes", how good of friends were they apparently???
I was soooo worried of being alone. But, have been in a new relationship for almost 2 years.... and getting married this fall.
My biggest fear is "what if" this relationship turns sour.... and I feel stuck again??? What will I do??? No alcohol issues... but I still have abandonment issues, and have a heck of a hard time enforcing boundaries.
I keep taking care of myself, and taking things one day at a time.