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Old 03-21-2011, 08:18 AM
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GettingBy
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I took the leap and went couple of meetings last week.
Good for you!!! The first one is the hardest... and it gets easier with time!!

I dont know I am rambling - I am just beside myself with confusion
Sit with it. Keep working on you. Focus on you and what you can control and let your husband be. When we focus on them, and what they are doing - we spin out of control.

I know for me - I started Al-anon... because I thought, "Gee, if I go, he will see! He'll see that I have to do this because he has a drinking problem!" Nope, didn't work. He couldn't care less about me going. I thought, "If I detach and let him fall, then he'll get it!"

All that focusing on him... and it kept ME from getting better.

Don't feel like you have to make any decisions... just one step at a time..
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