Old 03-21-2011, 08:09 AM
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Tuffgirl
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Pandora, you may find a theme running through the posts here in your thread. We are all talking about how to take care of yourself. You are still talking about how to help/save/cure your boyfriend and asking us to wish you luck on that. None of the old-timers here will do such a thing; they will say a prayer for you that you find your own peace and enjoyment in life instead of spending so much time worrying about someone you can't control nor cure. Al-Anon would really benefit you right now...I hoep you consider trying some meetings. You won't find the answers you are seeking here, though.

One other suggestion that many of us do occasionally - go to the alcoholism forum and post your issue there. Let the recovering alcoholics talk about how they reached their bottom. Read their stories. Go to an open AA meeting in your town. You'll find a common theme there, as well. Do this before you completely throw your life aside to "protect" someone else who doesn't really want nor need your protection. He's a grown man who will make his own decisions, whether you like them or not.

There are many good books out there on alcoholism. One I read early on was, "Why don't they just quit", by Joe Herzanek. In order to truly combat alcoholism you'll need to understand exactly what you are fighting against and develop a strategy that takes that into account.
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