I think most of us have NEEDED our brains washed.
But in the traditional sense, no, AA does not brainwash anyone.
You can't control someone else's recovery any more than you could control their drinking. Some people go out and start trying to make amends before they have worked the other Steps, and some do it without the guidance of a sponsor. Those errors make for amends that are clumsy at best, and harmful at worst.
I suggest you try to let go of what he is doing (or not doing) in his program and work on your own recovery.