Thanks, Keepinon, that is a great way to describe Al-Anon. I, too, found it very useless at first...what the heck is this stuff? No one here is telling ME hot to FIX this problem with HIM...they are all talking about themselves...and no one is really even complaining! Aren't they all as mad as I am right now??!!!
Wow - that was me 8 months ago. Today is me very happily attending Al-Anon, sharing my own solutions to my situation, feeling strong and healthy again. It does work. Keep going back. Listen, watch, talk with people after the meeting who say something particularly useful to you. And call those people outside of a meeting to talk more personal issues. They offer their phone numbers for a reason. Took me months to pick up the phone but boy I am glad I reached out for help when I did.
Stay strong! It does get better...
~T