Welcome!
How is he dependent on you and why?
Making coffee for him could be fine and it could be unhealthy.
Is he out front changing the oil in the cars and you are already in the kitchen?
Or is he sitting on his backside and too lazy to get up?
My husband is pretty independent, but I have heard here that if you are doing things for them that they can do for themselves, that is codependent.
Thinking in terms of what we'd think of in a normal marriage where two people are a team and help eachother out just doesn't apply.
Check out Codependent No More by Melody Beattie.
I got a lot out of it.
