Shell Crusher I think you are doing brilliantly. Your strength inpires me.
My thoughts on "confronting?
I feel like a bit of a chomp at the moment because I've been posting how my AW is actually recovering and she is transforming.
I left her at our rented house with the girls for a couple of hours today (her first ever visit since we moved out)
She was dozing and woke when I came home, I realised she must have been drinking earlier and I calmy said. Come on love, time to go. She smiled (drunkenly) and asked for the keys. I told her no, politely. Said I was really sorry she had drank as I know how much the progress had meant but I couldn't let her stay.
Drove her to the house, She was ful off Oh God What have I done. I didnt really answer just said it was Sad after all the progress: A really poor choice. She had teh coice to start again tomorrow from wherever that new starting point was.
She said I've wrecked everything. I said well what's done is done. Sure its a big set-back.
She called a few times later and I nicely but firmly suggested she might be better calling programme friends and I'd talk to her tomorrow.
Anyway I was proud I didn't confront at all. I have immersed my self in "the programme".
I'm not devastated as I have been prepared for this and we are focussing on us.
Doesn't stop me picking up the grieving process I was mostly through last month!
Keep it up dude...