Welcome to the forum.
Nice to meet you
and sorry for the reason.
I think the best advice here is the concern
over legal entanglements.
I think it's great that a kid wants to be an adult
and I also think it's necesary
to make that as actual as possible.
But if she DOES get into some trouble
on her way to the bottom
it COULD entangle you and your property
in a way
that could cost you your house.
Something to think about.
ALso =-
I agree for the need of face to face support
to surround yourself with others who have
been there done that.
You will find
that the people in recovery
are the most 'connected' people on the planet.
They know programs
they know books
they know other people
and they want to help.
And it's free -
nobody but NOBODY can beat the price.
Far better
than having to sell the house
to pay legal bills
put on you by the court
because the car was in your name.
Lastly
I didn't know there were any states left
that had a drinking age of 18.
I say that
because the colleges here
would have already put her out.
For nothing more
than the POTENTIAL
of legal action
by other parents
and because they value their reputations
as scholastic based colleges.
I realize and understand
that it's also a blow to the psyche
to have to go from
being so proud of a child
to being a parent
trying to cope with an addiction.
That's a bitter pill.
I hope you'll read here all that we have
and think about what the others have said
some have said what they did
from personal experience
and they're not just 'sister doom' types.
We know how quickly it can go bad in a surreal way.
But you're here
and your'e not alone.
I hope you take advantage of the ES&H here.
Welcome!