Wanttobehealthy, I agree with CoffeeLover that it sounds like you've made the best decision with what you have to work with.
No need to feel any guilt or feel that you're imposing consequences on AH. The consequences to his actions are his. From your latest post, it sounds like you've set that one down.
(Just remember to leave it and not pick it back up.
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Parenting while dealing with PTSD is hard. You're doing GREAT! Wishing you peace and continued strength!