Old 03-17-2011, 07:42 AM
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FindingPeace1
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Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: rural west
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Welcome! You're in the right place, that's for sure.
The tough part about having it be your daughter is the responsibility you feel to her at any age. I get that.
Nonetheless, she is an adult and you can't force her to stop. You can protect your assets, as has been mentioned. You can counsel her if she asks you. You can set boundaries for yourself. But you can't make her stop.

It hurts so much, I know. My aunt has two sons (out of seven) that are drug addicts and alcholics. They live on the streets. (They are in their 40's) It is painful for ALL of us to see that and not HELP or try to CHANGE them or FIX it.

Unfortunately, they are adults that get to make their own choices. We have made it clear to them that if and when they ever choose to recover, we are all 100% behind them. Until that day, we choose to love them from afar.

Take strength and hope from the fact that while we can't change your daughter, you can learn to lessen your pain and we will support you in that.

Take care,
peace
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