Originally Posted by
bookwyrm 
This is/was me! I'm still rediscovering who I actually am now. My memory isn't terrible. I'm not stupid and incompetent. Now I just have to work on all the other things I believe about myself and see if they are actually true!
Me, too!
I identified my mother's gaslighting recently, but I always felt like XABF wasn't so much a gaslighter compared to the other forms of abuse (mainly verbal).
But this is how I always felt around him, because he was deflecting so much off to me. I guess it was easier to think it was my fault, because if it was him distorting reality there wasn't anything I could do to change
that...
Wow.
More things to think about.