I hadn't read about gaslighting before but I just made a connection with a phrase I recall saying quite a bit for a time. It was, "say what you want, but that isn't my reality." He would attempt to tell me how I think or feel, and it would be opposite of the truth. I never fell for it, and he basically gave up. I now understand why he got so angry at those words and would mock me. He was still trying to manipulate me.