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Old 03-16-2011, 10:17 AM
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FindingPeace1
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Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: rural west
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Tuff girl said it.
Some people say that "functioning alcoholic" isn't a type, it's a stage.
That may be true.
It doesn't matter, ultimately.

I began to realize although all of our stories are different, there are similarities. So, my problems may be different by DEGREE, but not by content.

Are we all doubting ourselves and rationalizing behavior we don't like? Yes.
Are our partners doing things we feel uncomfortable with and normal communication doesn't touch it? Yes.
Are we suffering? Yes.
Are we trying to control them, or worrying over them, or hurting over them? Yes.
Do we feel stuck? Yes.
Are we walking over our own boundaries? Absolutely.
Have our lives become unmanageable? Yes.
Do we need to learn skills of letting go of control? Yes.
Do we need to learn skills of focusing on ourselves? Yes.
Do we need to learn skills of taking action in situations we don't like? Yes.
Do we need to get over people pleasing so we may care for ourselves? Yes.
Do we need to work on finding out who we are and what we need? Yes.
Do we need to work on our self esteem and finding our voice? Yes.

We're here for you, babe, and we understand.

Check out Codependent No More by Melody Beattie. It helped me a lot.

Peace
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