In a spiritual, mythical sense my teachers throughout life would call this the mirror self attack effect, LOL...
The idea is that the world around you mirrors your inner feelings of worth, of self attack.
There is a part of you that feels guilty in retreating your people pleasingness.
What would my teachers say to do next?
FORGE ONWARD. IT IS JUST RESISTANCE to forward growth, like the last gasp of a drowning man...
Your Higher self is saying," I dont want to perpetuate this needy/provider dance anymore. I am going to make a stand for me. I want to evolve onto something healthier"
And your lesser evolved, unhealthy dancing self is kicking up a storm, and so, the world outside of you reflects that, and it is a bit of a test of your commitment.
Unhealthy people either come up to meet you at your new level of operation, or they fall away.
Healthy people start to get your signals, and start showing up on your radar.
You are transmitting a new signal. A higher frequency, if you will...it might take a minute for the old stuff to clear out.