When people-pleasers stop pleasing...
...everyone gets mad! Yeesh! I feel it coming from almost every which way these days. Certain people have even gone so far as to ask ME what is wrong with ME?
Setting boundaries and then standing firm on them is difficult. It's hard not to back off, feeling the weight of the responsibility of someone else's feelings, feeling the manipulation creeping in...
How do you tell someone you don't want to have a relationship with them, especially on their terms? If you're respectfully direct, you've "hurt their feelings". If you don't respond to their requests, you've "hurt their feelings".
I have to stand back and look at the responses and wonder if I am going about this incorrectly?! How do you stand firm against the guilt trips?