Ugh, so sad that you had to have that in your face at your meeting.
I believe you and your H have worked out a compromise. It shows that you both care about the other partner and wish to make positive changes. Good on you.
Please be gentle with yourself.
You know what you need from your life partner and you calmly shared your feelings.
You were speaking up for yourself, your children and speaking your truth.
You took your power back.
In Alanon, we admitted we were powerless over alcohol and our lives had become unmanageable.
Keeping that in mind (we are powerless over alcohol)....
If your H goes back out there, it is not within our power to prevent that or save him. We are powerless over alcohol and the addiction.
You are a good person.
You are a good mom.
Peace and hugs