Hi blwinthewind
Take what you need and leave the rest.......
I was offended the other day when my best friend told me something like "oh.. nice you went to the beach.. so things are looking a little bit better for you.." like saying I was doomed to be sad/depressed/a loser! well anyway I am feeling much better now. And she doesn't have to get it...
Trust yourself, keep moving forward.... and yes the AA/Alanoids I've met IRL have talked in compassionate ways and had never told ME what I was doing ok or not or made me feel offended in any way. Not every person is fully recovered IMHO, don't let that discourage you!