Thank you all so much.... I just got a SCATHING email from my enmeshed SICK mil... To be honest, when I read things about child abuse and parentified kids I see my H and my MIL in my mind... He, her baby, was HER emotional center even as a kid-- he was the golden child who could do no wrong and was "there" for her. SICK. So he just doesn't see it, and probably never will. And she puts on this front of being serene and sweet and non judgemental when she is the opposite of all 3. Toxic and evil. I really really want to hit reply to her but I won't give her that enjoyment... UGH.