Destiny -
Thanks for giving me a heads up on what lies ahead!! I'm going to call the divorce attorney and get the process this week. I'm not going to talk to AH about it... There's nothing left to discuss.
Funny because, probably like you, I've tried talking all throughout the last 10 yrs and it got me no where. And I suspect, hell I KNOW that he's going to accuse me of giving up, walking away, and not keeping up my end of the vows. He already is but I suspect he's going to up the ante when I actually serve him with papers.
When he gets like that, I picture it as he's throwing a rope at me. I have a choice - pick it up and play tug of war, or leave it on the ground and not participate in the game. I think that visual helps me keep my feet on the ground and not sucked into his drama.
It is one step at a time... I'm so grateful to have this healthy community to support me.