My XH was not an alcoholic, but had other addiction issues and was in a 12 step program. He NEVER made amends of any sort. Nothing. Went out of his way to make the next 15 years of my life as difficult as possible. All while going to this 12 step program! Grrrrrr.
I think a meaningful apology, while hard to hear, would have been great. I'm not holding my breath
Thanks for this thread. It has given me a lot to think about, especially about the value of forgiveness for the person who does the forgiving.