I don't really feel like I started over. I just started walking instead of standing still.
Maybe when/if I ever have a new relationship I'll feel like I'm starting over so to speak.
To start walking and keep moving I read here, did some very short term counseling and short term al-anon. I read a lot of the books that are mentioned here. I took a break to read more on another topic but have more books on my 'to read' list yet.