Ladybug, I'm right there with you and everyone else commenting here. I just don't even listen to him much anymore when he talks..quack...quack. I don't like him and don't want to hear what he has to say. He is so in his own little selfish world. My AH is still active but it's good for me to hear that even when they aren't, they continue with their bad behavior. I want to encourage joint counseling but it's only because I think it's the nice thing to do....the codie part of me wants to give him a chance. Then I wonder why....because he's a royal pain in the butt and doesn't deserve more chances.