OK..my first thought is that the Dr.s ARE NOT telling him he doesn't have a drinking problem, thats what he is TELLING YOU..they probably did say he is anxious and i contributes to his drinking, but I highly doubt they are just overlooking the alcohol..I've heard this story alot on these boards..puh-leez..hopefully the court will imposr some rehab where he will be called out on his using..
Good for you for refocusing and taking care of your stuff at home..keep detaching with love and do go to that alanon mtg!