Congratulations on this!
My RAH was doing the same, avoisind the home, only he wasnt doing it for meetings.
I realize through your posts that if he was doing it for meetings, and staying away from the home all the time, it STILL would be unacceptable...I had to ask myself that when I read your story.
He is avoiding real life. I think it is common in early recovery, and your communication may blast him out of his protective little world.
The RA is at a loss for how to cope with reality. They spent years and years putting reality off drink by drink, day by day.
It has now landed on him, and he is running for cover. It is so clear.
He wants you to play along, to keep up his denial about how swimmingly his recovery is going.
He is not drinking and that is really hard, but, if his sober self cant handle being around a loving family, then there is more work to do.
Congratulations again.
It must feel so good to get that out, and to be heard.
Im sure he is steaming mad.