Originally Posted by
Verbena 
I personally wouldn't go out and date or make myself available, just to show my AH that I've still got it without him. I'd wait until I felt ready.
It has nothing to do with him. I am over him it feels like. I don't care if he thinks I've got it or not because plenty of others do. I find myself wanting to go out, but afraid to.
I want a relationship. I spent 12 years alone raising my daughter and I have made the decision this marriage is hopeless. I am ready to move on I think, but it is not the right time. I have loose ends to tie up. And his reaction if I even remove my wedding ring won't be pretty. I just find myself feeling suffocated and I don't even live with him.
Originally Posted by
Verbena But it's not good for you to isolate yourself either.
I moved an hour to my husband's home town when we married. I was isolated early on. I left my job even. I was very clueless about this situation. My friends of 30 years (2 of them) waited for me, of course, but they are in my hometown 500 miles away.
I live with my daughter but, she has her own life. I essentially don't exist to her except when she needs something. I know noone. I am getting out job hunting and alanon, but have not really struck up any real friendships.
Originally Posted by
Verbena Have you considered the possibility that your AH is showing off?
No. I just think he is a pig.