Hi Lisa and WELCOME to SR. I'm glad you found this place. There's lots of support to be had here.
When you go to Al-Anon, which I sincerely hope you do, you'll learn about the 3 C's of addiction:
You didn't CAUSE the addiction
You can't CONTROL the addiction
You can't CURE the addiction
No matter how much love, support, encouragement, hand holding, manipulation, threatening, yelling, begging, pleading you do...you cannot change the alcoholic. You simply do not have that power. The only power you have is over yourself.
I applaud you for coming here to search for answers. It's great of you to offer AA meetings to your loved one. But beyond that, it's best to step away from the alkie and let this person, who happens to be a grown adult, perfectly capable of reaching out for help, find recovery himself/herself.
By trying to do it for them, you are robbing the person of the dignity of finding recovery for himself/herself. Doesn't that person deserve that dignity?
I do hope you keep reading and posting here as much as you like. SR is always open.