I have to keep in touch with XAH because of DS's visitation with him. I get that. By court order, contact between XAH and I is supposed to be only by email and only about DS. Somehow, XAH still manages to make that manipulative and stinky. It sucks. I've left the email address he remembers an X and his ties-only address. I get incredibly anxious every time I open it. If there is anything from him, it's rarely polite. Court order also stipulates that DS's visits are supervised. So yep, contact in some form is required. But, I do not have to listen to anything not about DS.
I get the eye of the storm feeling. Completely. The more time away, though, the clearer it's been to see the drama he and his GF creates and the easier it is to try to remember to not engage in the dance anymore.
I don't know why he didn't stop when he lost his business, his truck, his wife and son. Well, yeah, easy answer is his addiction, but the deeper meaning behind it, behind why he has this addiction....
Sending hugs.