I am sorry to hear about your situation...
I do not know where you are in NC but I know in Raleigh that there are at least two lawfirms that have periodic seminars that pretty much go over everything you need to know and have Q&A periods afterwards. I went a month ago to one and learned a ton that I needed to know. It went through the emotional, financial, child support/visitation issues as well as the separation/divorce laws in NC. I found it by googling divorce seminar. I also heard that some of the Colleges with Law programs have some free assistance programs for women.
Good Luck....I know it can be hard