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DYI divorce in NC
How to Get a Divorce Without a Lawyer North Carolina
Take it one step at a time.
You need
a) a visitation/custody agreement, clearly defining how you will coparent (I can send you my document if it can help you draft up yours)
b) divorce proceedings
c) info on filing the papers (fees, backup documents, and information about delays, etc).
I know it's a big headache, but you can do it.