This is a very interesting and timely thread - I am coming to the realization that I may never again "like", much less love, my RAH spurred me to buy my own house and accept an indefinite separation. I don't know who this man is.
Silly, he is like your husband...angry and immature and super negative toward me. He doesn't trust me; never has. But will he? I don't know anymore, but I am not willing to put my life on hold to find out. I can do this from a distance and we'll see what happens.
I am willing to keep the door open for now, but I have no expectations he will be anything different than he is now, and I don't like that guy very much.
I am so excited about having my own life back that his issues and the back and forth "will he change or won't he" no longer bothers me much. It is what it is.